Well, I left a message with the SW today. She needed the measurements of our rooms and I wanted to find out if she found out about doing our interviews sooner - as that was a possibility when we setup the date for the 8th. (Granted, I doubt it, but I can still hope) It doesn't feel as long away now that there is only a week left. Tuesday of next week is the first interview... though i want to see if she can try and sqeeze in both DH and mines that day, rather than just mine. (I am hoping that is at least an option, grr)
The sw said before, that the homestudy would be done before the end of July, but if she keeps scheduling things for two weeks later, I am not sure how that is going to happen. Our first interview is on the 8th, which is just supposed to be 'my' interview, so I am very much hoping when I talk to her that she is able to squeeze in DH too... but somehow i don't have much faith in that.
Going back and forth of being excited and frustrated today. Overall, I am excited, but the other part of me is frustrated because this homestudy is taking forever - even though we are completely flexible with times and even willing for last minute appointments.
Blah, I vent a lot, dont i?
haha, well, mood picked up again - see what I mean? Rollercoaster of feelings lately!
On a very good note, DH brought up something yesterday, out of the blue... before he was adament about only wanting one child at first, no sibling sets whatsoever right now, and so on. (Which I was/am fine with, though I would be very pleased with having more, even to start. Either way is fine with me)
Anyway, DH brought up that he wouldn't mind adopting a sibling set from the get go, if the younger one was 6-7 months or younger. He also mentioned, that he - like me - if it came out that "oh, *** has a brother or sister" we couldn't see passing the sibling up whatsoever, even if it was very soon into the adoption or before/after the placement.
Talk about putting me in a great mood!
I know he was all for a second child, as long as there was some time in between to get settled, but its so nice to hear he would be fine with two at the get-go. It opens up our options a lot more too!
The reason for the second being an infant, is that we are in a small house at the moment and an infant could be in our room until 365 days old - at that point we would switch rooms with the kids, (our room can hold two children) and look for a bigger house at that point.
Which would work fine, since about in a year or so (depending on if we adopt 1 or 2 children) we would be looking to move anyway to have more space. Well, heres to hoping the sw calls back today - despite it being her 'busy' day.
Monday, June 30, 2008
Tuesday, June 24, 2008
First Interview Date Set...
Well, talked to the SW today. The state, as we already knew, is doing a new training thing this week... but since we are willing to be 'test subjects' (its just a person that stands in with the SW to evaluate the adoption process) then we might be able to have the first interview done soon. Our SW is waiting for an answer back from her 'ghosting person', so we set a temporary date today - in case an earlier appointment cannot be made. So, if not sooner, July 8th is our first interview thing - myself.
I'm a bit grumpy since that is two weeks away, and I am hesitant to believe it will actually be sooner than that - though the sw seemed pretty confidant it could be, but at least, the first date is set.
It just feels like this will never be done... the waiting for a match, I think I could stand, since there is no set 'date' on that one, but this waiting for the homestudy stuff is driving me bonkers. (Granted, I am sure the official 'waiting' will drive me nuts too - more so- , when we ever get to it)
Unfortunately, we dont have the money to shell out to have our homestudy done by a private company - as our sw mentioned we could do. Even if we did, I am not sure we would, since why pay $800 when you can get it for free? Blah. Just so anxious.
I have to call with the room dimensions, so hopefully I hear better news then.
I'm a bit grumpy since that is two weeks away, and I am hesitant to believe it will actually be sooner than that - though the sw seemed pretty confidant it could be, but at least, the first date is set.
It just feels like this will never be done... the waiting for a match, I think I could stand, since there is no set 'date' on that one, but this waiting for the homestudy stuff is driving me bonkers. (Granted, I am sure the official 'waiting' will drive me nuts too - more so- , when we ever get to it)
Unfortunately, we dont have the money to shell out to have our homestudy done by a private company - as our sw mentioned we could do. Even if we did, I am not sure we would, since why pay $800 when you can get it for free? Blah. Just so anxious.
I have to call with the room dimensions, so hopefully I hear better news then.
Friday, June 20, 2008
Writing a Adoption Kids Book...
I love to write. So I figured I would give a kids book a try, so whatever child we adopt has a book just for them. I just wrote it and was curious as to what you all think? I am trying to make it an "adoption kids book" rather than just a typical kids book.
Here is what I have so far:
It was a warm, yet cloudy day when Little Cluck came to stay.
The yard was small, the house looked bland, and two strangers stood there with waving hands!
So scared and worried, was what Little Cluck felt. He stood there quietly, feeling as small as an elf.
Who were these people? Did they not see? This house was too warm! Too Small! Too – wait, what were these?
Little Cluck looked with big surprised eyes. Games upon games were waiting inside!
Wait, he thought and came to a stop. This place was still scary!
These people, this place, what were they like? Did they not know he wanted to hide?
Little Cluck could not help but cry. Where were those he knew? Why could they not come too?
The days carried on, with smooth whispers and play. Hugs and kisses came every day.
Now, Little Cluck could not believe he had been so afraid! Today he was going outside to play.
Mom and Dad stood by and waved. The yard was huge and the house so bright, how could this have ever given him a fright?
That is it! I might expand on it a little, but I wanted to keep it short too.
Thursday, June 19, 2008
Updated Pictures!
Updated pictures of our "Kid Room". There is still more to do, but a lot of it is based more on what gender/age/interests are of the child. Right now there is a frog theme in the room. We have a frog in the stuffed animal hanging thing, frogs on the cork board behind the bed, and a nylon/plastic Frog toy box.It is a small room, but we are making it work and when standing in it, the bed dosen't take up as much room as it looks in the picture. There is actually room for a desk and toy box at the end and room to play. All in all, it is a small room though - perfect size for a child! :)
Second "Kid Room" picture has the twin bed we have setup, since its likely we will be getting a toddler/child, instead of an infant. (We arereally hoping for a toddler!)
A picture of our clean livingroom! The night before the Homestudy. Needless to say, we have a TON of games and books. (The top shelf below the counter has all books, the shelf below it is all games.)
The baskets below the shelves (though the baskets will be changed for taller/wider ones) is going to be for our kid toys. Seperated into what they are: legos, dolls, coloring, etc. That way the kid can take out a basket, based on what they want to do.
TTC Update
DH and I have been discussing just ttc'ing for the remainder of this cycle and just 'winging it' after that. Right now, we really are into the adoption process and want to adopt to matter what. We planned on still adopting, even if I get pregnant, but at the same time, we dont want to jepordize a placement since we only have the required space for "1" child. Granted, we plan to move in a few years, but it may not be seen that great to a sw.
This is really making me feel relieved - I was even the one that brought it up. I told DH that I may have a hard time stopping ttc, condsidering how addicted I am to actually following my cycles now. He laughed and said I was addicted to peeing on a stick - I agreed - I am. lol
We'll probably still 'try', since its hard to stop, but we'll see. Once we are officially 'waiting' for a match with adoption, then we will likely stop for sure ttc'ing then.
This is really making me feel relieved - I was even the one that brought it up. I told DH that I may have a hard time stopping ttc, condsidering how addicted I am to actually following my cycles now. He laughed and said I was addicted to peeing on a stick - I agreed - I am. lol
We'll probably still 'try', since its hard to stop, but we'll see. Once we are officially 'waiting' for a match with adoption, then we will likely stop for sure ttc'ing then.
Updated Adoption Process Tracker
- 2/6/2008: Adoption Process Starts -- Orientation
- 2/8-9&22-23/2008: PRIDE Training!
- 3/18/2008: CPR/HIV/Blood born pathogens Certification
- 4/25/2008: Fingerprints + ALL APPLICATION FORMS IN!
- 5/05/2008: Assigned Social Worker
- 5/12/2008: 3-of-4 References In! Didn't need to bother with the last.
- 6/18/2008: HOMESTUDY DONE!
- 6/??/2008: Waiting to do the Interviews!
Wednesday, June 18, 2008
Homestudy Done!! Interviews next!
The SW was a bit late (called that she was running late, and got here about 3pm instead of 2:30pm. It only lasted about an hour and a half.
Our SW was really nice, though worried me a bit at first when she was talking about the homestudy part could take a long time (liscensing, etc) until i reminded her that we were only doing adoption of "legally free" and not fostering. (So not liscensing needed, just the homestudy! )
It sounds like we only have the interviews left to do now - the one with both of us and then seperatly. She said at the very very latest the homestudy and such would be complete no later than the end of July. (Apparently that is her idea of a long time... which it is, but not as long as I was thinking she meant) We're very very flexible on times, so that will speed things up too, since she can call and schedule for that afternoon type of thing... its easy for us to get there with short notice.
After all my worrying - things went exactly as everyone else kept telling me... she walked through the house quickly like a bored neighbor, didn't even want to look in our room (so much for cleaning that! lol) and then we proceeded to sit down at the kitchen table. I think we could have had bags of trash in the middle of the room and she wouldn't have noticed.
The only thing we need to do is, print out our tax form again and sign it, since apparently they needed our signature on the bottom of it (we filed electronically), and our doctor forgot to check a box on our medical form, so we have to bring that by to the doctor to fix.
Other than that, we are fairly set! The important part is: The home visit portion of the Homestudy is done!!!
Our SW was really nice, though worried me a bit at first when she was talking about the homestudy part could take a long time (liscensing, etc) until i reminded her that we were only doing adoption of "legally free" and not fostering. (So not liscensing needed, just the homestudy! )
It sounds like we only have the interviews left to do now - the one with both of us and then seperatly. She said at the very very latest the homestudy and such would be complete no later than the end of July. (Apparently that is her idea of a long time... which it is, but not as long as I was thinking she meant) We're very very flexible on times, so that will speed things up too, since she can call and schedule for that afternoon type of thing... its easy for us to get there with short notice.
After all my worrying - things went exactly as everyone else kept telling me... she walked through the house quickly like a bored neighbor, didn't even want to look in our room (so much for cleaning that! lol) and then we proceeded to sit down at the kitchen table. I think we could have had bags of trash in the middle of the room and she wouldn't have noticed.
The only thing we need to do is, print out our tax form again and sign it, since apparently they needed our signature on the bottom of it (we filed electronically), and our doctor forgot to check a box on our medical form, so we have to bring that by to the doctor to fix.
Other than that, we are fairly set! The important part is: The home visit portion of the Homestudy is done!!!
Tuesday, June 17, 2008
LESS than one day until Homestudy!!!
...LESS than one day until our homestudy! Can you say nervous?
If I thought I was nervous/excited before... I must have been joking myself compared to today. We have less than 24 hours until our homestudy - and I am beyond nervous! Overwhelmed would be putting it lightly.
Luckily, our homestudy is at 2:30pm tomorrow, so I can sleep in -- I already know I'll have a hard time getting to sleep tonight. These past two weeks actually flew by - almost too quickly!
It seems like we still have so much to do - which doesn't make sense, since we were ready two weeks ago. We'd probably be ready now, but putting that portable shell around the new dishwasher really dirtied the kitchen - luckily it actually cleaned up fast. Still more to do in there, but not much.
The windows (and everything else!) are this afternoons challenge... most are double vinyl windows, but we have a couple metal ones still left and they are such a pain. Luckily, we have a steamer that works really well for that, but still a pain.
I just keep worrying our social worker will get here tomorrow and go "No Way!" or "Several more visits - you need to do this and this and this" or even worse "DeClInEd" - for whatever reason that isnt fixable: Ceiling height, house in general, etc... things that aren't really 'fixable'.
Hopefully she doesn't look in the fridge either, its pretty bare at the moment - besides lots of condiments, onions, potatos, yogurt and milk. The freezer is full at least and the cupboards not too bad. (We meant to go grocery shopping the other day, but didn't have the chance too - and wont be able to tonight either.)
I know being this nervous is normal and inevitable, but wow... I was a lot more calm a few weeks ago. Since I know its going to be tomorrow, I am just plain nervous!
If I thought I was nervous/excited before... I must have been joking myself compared to today. We have less than 24 hours until our homestudy - and I am beyond nervous! Overwhelmed would be putting it lightly.
Luckily, our homestudy is at 2:30pm tomorrow, so I can sleep in -- I already know I'll have a hard time getting to sleep tonight. These past two weeks actually flew by - almost too quickly!
It seems like we still have so much to do - which doesn't make sense, since we were ready two weeks ago. We'd probably be ready now, but putting that portable shell around the new dishwasher really dirtied the kitchen - luckily it actually cleaned up fast. Still more to do in there, but not much.
The windows (and everything else!) are this afternoons challenge... most are double vinyl windows, but we have a couple metal ones still left and they are such a pain. Luckily, we have a steamer that works really well for that, but still a pain.
I just keep worrying our social worker will get here tomorrow and go "No Way!" or "Several more visits - you need to do this and this and this" or even worse "DeClInEd" - for whatever reason that isnt fixable: Ceiling height, house in general, etc... things that aren't really 'fixable'.
Hopefully she doesn't look in the fridge either, its pretty bare at the moment - besides lots of condiments, onions, potatos, yogurt and milk. The freezer is full at least and the cupboards not too bad. (We meant to go grocery shopping the other day, but didn't have the chance too - and wont be able to tonight either.)
I know being this nervous is normal and inevitable, but wow... I was a lot more calm a few weeks ago. Since I know its going to be tomorrow, I am just plain nervous!
Friday, June 13, 2008
Adopton Process So Far...
Our Adoption Process, so far:
2/6/2008: Adoption Process Starts -- Orientation
2/8-9&22-23/2008: PRIDE Training!
3/18/2008: CPR/HIV/Blood born pathogens Certification
4/25/2008: Fingerprints + ALL APPLICATION FORMS IN!
5/05/2008: Assigned Social Worker
5/12/2008: 3-of-4 References In! Didn't need to bother with the last.
6/18/2008: WAITING FOR HOMESTUDY!
2/6/2008: Adoption Process Starts -- Orientation
2/8-9&22-23/2008: PRIDE Training!
3/18/2008: CPR/HIV/Blood born pathogens Certification
4/25/2008: Fingerprints + ALL APPLICATION FORMS IN!
5/05/2008: Assigned Social Worker
5/12/2008: 3-of-4 References In! Didn't need to bother with the last.
6/18/2008: WAITING FOR HOMESTUDY!
Tuesday, June 10, 2008
Waiting for Homestudy and O
This next week should be a great one... i'm hoping! Our Homestudy is on the 18th (only a week away!) and I should be O'ing any day now too. Hopefully anyway. I took 200mg Soy Isoflavones with 240mg on the last day this cycle (days 2-6), so I am hoping it worked and will make me actually O.
I'm actually more excited about the Homestudy though. To be honest, we might not even ttc the next cycle since we should be in the waiting period for adoption by next cycle. Knowing us, we will still ttc, but we might just 'wing it' (not use opk's or temp). Who knows - right now I think we are ttc addicts. lol
Anyway, the Homestudy is 8 Days away! This past week flew by (thankfully) and now there is only about a week left to wait for it. I really hope it goes well, I am still so nervous we'll be rejected or something. *.*
The SW said it will likely be really easy though. Since we do not have any kids already and no prior marriages, and our marriage is going on year 3 (in July!), etc. It sounds like it will go fine, but I am a worry wart. ^___^
I'm actually more excited about the Homestudy though. To be honest, we might not even ttc the next cycle since we should be in the waiting period for adoption by next cycle. Knowing us, we will still ttc, but we might just 'wing it' (not use opk's or temp). Who knows - right now I think we are ttc addicts. lol
Anyway, the Homestudy is 8 Days away! This past week flew by (thankfully) and now there is only about a week left to wait for it. I really hope it goes well, I am still so nervous we'll be rejected or something. *.*
The SW said it will likely be really easy though. Since we do not have any kids already and no prior marriages, and our marriage is going on year 3 (in July!), etc. It sounds like it will go fine, but I am a worry wart. ^___^
Tuesday, June 3, 2008
Weight Loss
Yesterday, I had my weekly weigh-in at Weight Watchers... it went very well!
I am down from: Last WW weigh in: 188.4 to 185.8 (I missed one week of weigh in, last week, but I am still down. My last weeks weigh-in at home was 186.8, so I lost 1lb this week!)
My first 10% was at 189.2 and my next is at 170.28... I am very much looking forward to that one!
Curves is still going great too. They just got the Curve Smart machines a week or so ago and I rather like them. I can actually listen to my own music (on headphones) as I go, instead of listening for the 'change stations', since the machines you now have to wait for the 'end' of each displayed on the screen. Much Better! They also make you work much harder... blagh. :)
The 14's are fitting better and better now, though still a hair away from actually wearing them out. Though I could at this point - if I wanted a slight muffin top. :( (Which I do not.)
I am down from: Last WW weigh in: 188.4 to 185.8 (I missed one week of weigh in, last week, but I am still down. My last weeks weigh-in at home was 186.8, so I lost 1lb this week!)
My first 10% was at 189.2 and my next is at 170.28... I am very much looking forward to that one!
Curves is still going great too. They just got the Curve Smart machines a week or so ago and I rather like them. I can actually listen to my own music (on headphones) as I go, instead of listening for the 'change stations', since the machines you now have to wait for the 'end' of each displayed on the screen. Much Better! They also make you work much harder... blagh. :)
The 14's are fitting better and better now, though still a hair away from actually wearing them out. Though I could at this point - if I wanted a slight muffin top. :( (Which I do not.)
Monday, June 2, 2008
Started Soy Isoflavones!
It is CD2 for me today. I started Soy Isoflavones today, 200mg (days 2-6). Looking into taking Cinnamon too, but trying to find out is Soy and Cinnamon together is alright... Anyone out there know? o.O
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